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First off, happy Halloween, everyone! Consider this little guide a gift back to all my watchers and fellow deviants as something for all of you to put to use. I will not be posting this guide anywhere outside of deviantART, so this is truly for the dA crowd.

1. Overview

It's very true that men have different ways of expressing themselves than women. Sometimes, how you act in crossplay can completely make or break your performance. This is not only useful information for women who intend to cosplay as male characters, but for drag kings, crossdressers, female-to-male transpeople, and even male-to-females and men who wish to be able to portray a more masculine character.

Please keep in mind - this guide will not cover many of the physical aspects of crossplay, as all of that would be too broad for one tutorial. If you wish to know more about using make-up, binding, packing, or dressing techniques, there are plenty of tutorials online, or you can feel free to ask me questions or stay tuned for more tutorials. I have been doing this since I was ten, so it's safe to say I know my stuff. I'm a female-to-male trangender who's been out for over a year and living as full-time male for six months as of 5/2010. I'm also friends with many other trans individuals who've had to learn masculine/feminine behaviors in to get the "act" right for the rest of their LIVES, so I've done my fair bit of research. While I'm not sure I have the proper "credentials" or am really even qualified to be giving out advice on gender expression when I feel like I have so much to learn (I actually have a non-verbal learning disorder, meaning I am CRAP at interpreting body language and facial expressions), I hope I can give a few bits of advice you'll find new and informative.

This guide will only offer advice on how to present yourself as male and "act the part". Despite it being somewhat of a rather important aspect of crossplay, there's not very much information that's aimed at cosplayers. If you are a male crossplaying as a female, this guide might also prove useful, though I can't say I know too much about acting female. ^^;

2. Sitting and Standing

Okay, now that that's out of the way, let's talk a little bit about body posture and mannerisms.

Men, if you notice, almost never have their hands on their hips. When standing still for long periods of time, you'll often notice them shoving their hands into their pockets, leaning back against a wall, or slouching over. They appear less "careful" than women in their posture, even if they're more refined. Men tend to slouch more and keep their legs further apart, something that women are generally discouraged to do early on.

When walking, men tend to walk with less of a "swing". ...Not like a robot, mind you. In fact, men tend to "loosen up" more when they walk, but have very little hip or side-to-side movement. When walking, men tend to take up more space and make wider movements than women. Depending on personality, men can all walk very differently, as someone's gender is NO indicator of how they act. L and Roy Mustang are both male, but they walk VERY differently, yet both their ways of moving are masculine. It's something you have to observe to really understand. And, if you live on planet Earth, chances are you have lots of opportunities to observe. ^^ If you don't observe as closely as I do, it's best to sum things up by saying men tend to walk in a way that's loose and relaxed, but making every step like they mean it (hence the "ganster-swagger" you see in movies. Puh-leeze).

When sitting, men tend to spread their legs wider. My friends and I like to joke about another friend of mine - Wes - who seems to always sit down with his legs spread as far apart as possible. Why? ...It's really comfortable. When sitting or laying around in general, men also tend to take up more space and get comfortable. Crossing your legs when "acting" male should only be done if you need to conserve space, if it's in character, or if you need to appear uncomfortable. Men tend to cross their ankles when they need to, rather than over the knee.

Now, I'm not saying you all have to "Wes" every time you sit, because I can assure you that not every male takes as much comfort in having their feet in different time zones :P, but it is a bit more convincing.

Some characters who are more refined, such as Roy Mustang (FMA), do cross their legs semi-frequently. The trick to pulling this off is to keep your shoulders back. Right now, I'm looking at a picture on my wall of Roy with his legs crossed at the knee, hands in his pockets, leaning back in his chair. He doesn't look at all feminine. ...However, he is looking up very suggestively at his best friend, who is sitting on his desk and appears to be scooting closer to him. ...*ahem*.

I've read in some places that men tend to "fidget" less, but, if you ask me, everyone fidgets equally. It's almost reflexive for someone who's bored to slide their phone open and closed. If you have a character who's fidgety in canon (such as Near or L, to use popular examples), then you really have nothing to worry about. Men tend to fidget more by twiddling their thumbs or playing with something in their hands, whereas women often fidget by shifting themselves, crossing/uncrossing their legs, etc. ...Also, I'm not trying to be sexist against myself, but, yeah, male fidgeting usually involves showing off. =P

As a general rule, neither gender has better posture, but men tend to slouch more.

A very masculine thing to do while sitting is to sit back with your legs spread and your hands folded together, fingers laced, between your legs, arms relaxed. Men often tend to relax their bodies more than women, but show it less (if that makes sense). A more feminine thing to do is to fold your hands, one over the other, without lacing your fingers and rest them on your lap. While men tend to appear more apathetic, when they do move, they usually do everything as though they mean it. Men also tend to touch their faces less, unless they're scratching their chin/jaw to feel how much their stubble has grown. ...Yes, men really do that, and, yeah, we pretty much do wonder about the growth of our facial hair on a daily basis. Among other men, this is probably something that's really good to do, even if you can't grow facial hair. Haha. Also, when adjusting their hair, a lot of men will act as though they're "tousling" it or just roughly pushing it back, where women tend to be more delicate about it.

One other thing: Eyebrows. You think I'm kidding, but when I wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, I tend to scowl my brow a little. Not like I'm angry, but like I'm focusing, sometimes with a little smile. When talking to someone, give a curt nod or two -- nodding is a good masculine way of expressing friendliness. Nodding is also a good replacement for a wave. Try it out.

Bear in mind - if a man DOES like crossing his legs or keeping his hands on his hips, this doesn't make him any less of a man, nor does it make him "gay". This is just a general guide on how the majority of men are seen. Some commonly crossplayed men, such as Tamaki from Ouran High School Host Club, are very flamboyant and feminine-acting. It all depends on the character (or you, if you're just simply crossdressing) and the discretion of the crossplayer.

3. Speech

Men have deeper voices, yes, but... Please don't try to deepen your voice as much as possible when you speak. You will sound ridiculous. xD It is possible to train your voice to drop to lower octaves, just as it is to train your voice to go higher, but this takes a lot of time and practice. There's really not a lot on how to "sound" male, since it's not often covered in crossdressing guides, and a good majority of FTMs (who are medically transgendered) opt to deepen their voices by using hormone replacement therapy.

You don't have to deepen your voice in order for it to "pass" as male, though. Quite simply, men use less expression when they speak. Women tend to use more of an upward inflection, whereas men speak in more of a monotone. ...Again, this does not mean you need to sound like a robot. xD;

Men do make gestures when they speak quite a bit, and these tend to be more throw-away and firm (does that make sense?) than delicate and precise. Men tend to use hand gestures more to make a statement, whereas women use them to articulate. This isn't always the case, mind you, but it's a good thing to keep in mind.

When introducing yourself, shake hands, and make your grip FIRM. If it's someone you respect, someone you're honored to meet (such as a guest of honor at a con), or someone you've met on friendly terms a couple times before, shake their hand with both of yours. Maintain eye contact, and remember the nod-scowl-smile thing from earlier. And even if you're portraying a woman, keep your grip firm. Really. No one wants to shake a dead snake. If someone walks over to introduce themselves, stand up, as sitting while someone is coming over to meet you, friend or not, is really rude and gives the impression that they're not worth your getting up. Con exhaustion is the one exception. If you have con exhaustion, you aren't expected to even know what manners are. One of my friends who was struck with C.E. literally forgot to unzip his trousers before peeing at the urinal. ...That was completely irrelevant, but I felt like sharing. (If you read this, friend, I'm sorry)

Also, when speaking, men tend to be more blunt. They don't hint or beat around the bush as much. To be blunt - men are blunt. This does not mean that men are emotionless zombies, as many sexist jokes love to say =P, but that men tend to get to the point. Men are just as capable of sugar-coating as women are, but in general, they tend to be more to-the-point.

4. "Uhh... That person..."

Not everyone's goal as a crossplayer is for people to think they're male, or to "pass". Females who are cosplaying males could oftentimes care less. It takes a lot less effort to act as you usually do, and creates a lot less confusion for the general public.

If you're crossdressing, the intent is usually to lead people to believe you are a gender that you do not identify with (drag kings and queens), or to "play" a gender.

When you are transgendered with a body that should belong on a woman, but identify as male, you ARE male, and by acting and dressing male, you're not FOOLING anyone. You are acting your gender. Of someone calls you "she" (or "he", if you are MTF), you have every right to say "I am male". There is no "leading", "passing", or "playing" involved. Unlike being a drag king/queen, transgender is not a lifestyle choice, but a medical condition where someone was born with the inappropriate body to match their gender.

Oftentimes, while crossplaying, you may be addressed as "sir" or "he" ("ma'am" and "she" for the MTFs reading along). For those who are female, this can be a bit of a fun novelty, especially if they're saying it to refer to you out of character. Even better is when you get "that person"ed, when someone starts a sentence meaning to refer to you with a gender-specific pronoun ("he" or "she") before realizing they don't know your gender.

Let's face it - for a lot of crossdressers who mean to "pass" as the opposite sex, this is just awesome.

As far as gender identity goes when you're crossplaying, it's very easy to get into a sticky situation. If you make a good effort to "pass", chances are you will. For a lot of female to male crossdressers, all it takes to look male is to put on a wig and clothes. However, which gender you identify with when you dress up is completely up to you. If you would prefer to be called "she", then there's obviously no need to correct someone who calls you "she".

If someone calls you "he", it's up to you whether you want to correct them or not. If you're ordering at a restaurant, in a store, or just seeing someone in passing, you don't need to correct them. If you meet someone at a convention who you're likely to be spending a lot of time with, it's a good idea to introduce yourself as the gender you wish to identify with, otherwise you could end up in an awkward situation.

If you identify as male out of costume (are FTM, genderqueer, etc), then you may correct someone who calls you "she" or go with it when you're referred to as male. MTFs reading along - this goes for you, too! It's your identity, and you have every right to make it known. It doesn't have to be awkward. Just say "I am male" or "I am female". If a shy friend can't seem to speak up, depending on your relationship, you can correct someone by pointing out your friend and saying "(pronoun here) is a (gender here)".

If your body and gender identity match (to be blunt - you have a vagina and identify as female), or to use the trans-community word, are cisgendered, I don't recommend correcting people when they refer to you as the sex you identify with. This is kind of like lying, in a way. If someone with an anatomically female who identifies as male corrects someone, they are male, and are not trying to "fool" anyone. But if you live your life as the gender opposite the one you're representing in costume, it's usually best to be honest in the long term. You know know when you might make a good friend at a con, and "lying" is not going to leave a good impression.

4.5. Bathrooms

Speaking of which, another popular subject as of late is BATHROOM USAGE! ...Really, this is kind of ridiculous. Here's how I see it:

  • If you are transgendered, you have the right to use whichever bathroom you are comfortable using.

  • If you are cisgendered representing a member of the opposite sex, you use that bathroom at your own risk.

  • If you are a very CONVINCING cisgendered crossplayer, you should probably just use the opposite gender's bathroom. It... Just, trust me. I'll explain in a bit.</i>
    • If you find yourself standing in front of both bathrooms ripping your hair out and not knowing what the hell to do, you should probably try to find the "family" bathroom or wait until you get home/in a hotel room/etc.

    Have you ever heard of someone going to prison for using the wrong bathroom? I mean, yes, people have been perverts and gone peeping in the opposite gender's restroom, but have you ever heard of someone who just went into a bathroom, did their business, and walked out being led out of the loo in handcuffs? Generally speaking, if someone sees you in the mens' room, it's going to be assumed that you are male. Unlike the womens' room, no one asks questions, talks, or even looks at you in the mens' room. ...It's enough to make any woman want to crossdress and hop on in the mens' room, if you want my opinion. I really do not get why going into the bathroom is such a social even and why peeing, washing your hands, or putting on makeup requires several pairs of eyes on you. The most communication that happens in the mens' room is usually a nod or a wave. You're going in there to take care of business, so why make it more than it is?

    If you are anatomically female-bodied and wish to use the mens' room, here are a few rules of thumb:

    • Do not use the mens' room to change any female hygiene products or reapply binding. Only DUH, but hey.

    • If you are at a con, doing your makeup in the mens' room won't even get you a second glance. Trust me on that.

    • Do not be social in the mens' room. You're there to take care of business, as I said, and it does not need to be more complicated than that.

    • If you are REALLY nervous, but really want to use the mens' room, use the buddy system. They say men don't go to the bathroom in groups like women do. ...That's not true. They do, but they don't make a social outing out of it. xP (I'm not being sexist, but women do tend to socialize in the restroom more). Going in with a male friend will not get you looked at.

    Likewise, if you're dressed as a female and have a penis, but identify as male and go in the mens' room at a convention, no one will look at you twice. Do you have any IDEA how many dresses, thigh-highs, and adjusting of fake boobs you see in the mens' room at cons? If you don't use the mens' room, ask about it sometime.

    I promised a story about why convincing crossplayers should go in the bathroom appropriate to how they look, and here it is.

    I was at a con (of course) with my girlfriend. She was crossplaying, and I went in with her to the womens' room to help her fix her makeup. Anyone who's been to a con will know that the hotel or adjacent hotels often have a lot of people staying who are not part of the con or just have no idea what's going on. I remember my first Anime Boston, my mom was staying with us on location and had to explain what was going on to many a few foreigners who'd never been to America before (yay for con moms!).

    This, of course, means that some of these people will be using the bathrooms where cosplayers are taping up their boobs, men are wearing skirts, and a cardboard robot is using the adjacent urinal. However, some non-con folk don't get used to it quite as quickly. Since my girlfriend is rather hardcore, she went as far as to stuff a sock in her underwear as packing. She had a very convincing fake beard, too. So, this woman walking in did a double-take just seeing her face, as she was VERY convincing. Must have been a little frightening...

    It was both hilarious and slightly terrifying when this same older woman was walking out to see my girlfriend adjusting her SOCK and patting her crotch to get it into place. I don't think we stopped laughing for about twenty minutes, but I have to wonder if this poor woman is done with her trauma therapy. Sometimes, for the sake of those around you, it's better to use the restroom you LOOK like you should be in. You'd be amazed how much crotch-patting goes on in the mens' room. ...Though, all things considered, you probably wouldn't be. But HEY! It's the mens' room! Why are you doing so much as making eye contact, hmmm?

    ...To sum it up - in and out of cons and other places where unusual gender expression is the "norm", please do bear in mind that there are still social standards and rules of etiquette you should follow in order to make things comfortable and safe for yourself and others. Don't make an ass of yourself, respect other people and THEIR gender expression, and keep it appropriate.

    5. NOW THEN, on gender expression and fanservice...

    The following section is only directed at people who cosplay at conventions. It is HUGE, but rather irrelevant, so feel free to skip it unless you want to see me rant about how not to be a creep. :P

    Believe it or not, doing fanservice IS a little different depending on your gender and whether or not you're crossplaying.

    I should probably do an entire, seperate guide to fanservice at cons, because so much of what I want to say is NOT gender-specific, but I suppose I'll start off as if I were writing this as a guide for EVERYONE. To sum it up before I start...


    Fanservice at cons is DANGEROUS, and I think I have more horror stories than absolutely anyone else I know. I've lost respect, friends, gotten into sketchy situations, sketched OTHER people out, gotten people in trouble with their bf/gf, etc.

    And I've been con-going for less than two years. You might think it takes talent, but, believe me, you need to use as much discretion as possible at a con.

    Men tend to be more subdued, yet more "dominant" in relationships. While, in my opinion, most relationships work best if the participants take turns with the dominant role, there is usually someone who assumes the dominant role and someone who assumes the submissive role.

    This does not mean that the submissive in a same-sex pairing is going to be a woman. Puh-leeze. Take the infamous Edward ElricxRoy Mustang pairing. Edward is often seen as the submissive in the relationship, but I cannot, for the life of me, see him being a whimpering little "uke", wearing a dress (are you KIDDING?!), or acting like a little girl. Why doing this is such a huge phenomenon, I will never understand, but Edward is a MASCULINE character. He does MASCULINE things. In public, while involved with Roy Mustang (I'm not a fan of this pairing, personally, but it makes for a nice example), he and Mustang would both very likely be extremely uncomfortable being affectionate or showing their relationship. Men, even gay ones, tend to be less expressive than women.

    I'm not saying "don't kiss and cuddle" as two men at a con, because in the end, how you express yourself is up to you. However, if your goal IS to "act" male, then it's something to keep in mind. Never forget your character, and try to put yourself in their shoes.

    If you want to score some points with the fangirls, however, there are plenty of other ways to do it. For example, get the door for a random woman, complement them, or, my personal favorite, hand out fake roses. xD; It's cute, harmless, and fun for everyone. You get BIG "gentleman" points, and it's not creepy at all. If it's in character for the person you're cosplaying, so much the better. ...With someone socially awkward, like L, I think it's more fun to go right up to people and offer them candy. Since it's in-character and harmless, chances are good no one's going to be creeped out.

    As for solo fanservice (such as dressing in a fetish way or having your shirt open), just keep in mind that, again, men have different ways of being "sexy" than women. A good way of having sex appeal as a man is to rely more on your expressions and movement rather than how you look or what you're wearing (...or not wearing). Honestly, just having a rose in your mouth is enough.

    If you're good, chances are you might be hit on. If this happens, just stay natural and in character, unless something happens that makes you uncomfortable. If something happens that makes you uncomfortable, please, PLEASE make it clear.

    While it may not be your goal to "pass" as male when cosplaying one, it does often pay to keep in mind that unless your character behaves that way, then it's best not to act as you normally do when putting on any kind of show. In a way, acting in character, period, is a form of (much more harmless) fanservice, and combining character expression with gender expression is much more of an art than an exact science.

    7. Conclusion

    About time I shut up, huh? Anyways, this guide is really just my two (or two hundred) cents, and is no replacement for your own judgment. I took the time to type this because many of my friends and watchers were curious and came to me, of all people, for advice on "playing the role" of a man. While this guide was intended for female-to-male crossplayers, I'm hoping it's helpful to drag kings, gender benders, and even those who are crossing male-to-female. Really, there's no set way to "act" a gender, and this guide is just giving advice based on how society views and (quite sadly, considering how many of us need to act our genders to be accepted) separates the sexes. The majority of what you've read here regarding gender expression are all learned behaviors, and, personally, I find it rather sad that someone has to "act" a certain way in order to identify with their gender. However, if you only want to "act", then feel free to use this as you will. I know I'm not the best at explaining things, but I really hope this did you some good. That's all I want to do.

EDIT: I honestly was NOT expecting this to get so popular!! I've edited a lot of things for clarity and taken out some of the more general con-going deals to shorten it and keep it on track and more informative about specific things. I added some things about body language and general interaction, but where there's just SO DAMN MUCH to cover as far the silent language of gender expression and body language, it's only the very basics. Again, your mileage may vary on a LOT of things, and feel free to add stuff, ask questions, and give me critique. I appreciate everyone's feedback and I can't tell you how glad I am so many people are finding this helpful. I'm really, really not the best to go to for this sort of thing, but it's really not talked about or explained anywhere else, so I'm glad I can be an even minimally helpful resource. =) --Pyro

Well, I figured it was about time I uploaded some of the resources I said I would. While I really wanted to do something with gore makeup or binding, I thought this would be a LOT more helpful to the people watching me. :3 I have a very diverse group of friends with varying genders and gender expressions, and it makes me very happy that I can give a few of them a hand.

Some cover-my-bum notes:

The preview image is of me. That's my ancient Edward Cullen I did as a joke last Valentine's Day.

I like stories. ...A lot. No names are mentioned here, and no names WILL be mentioned. If you see yourself here, I was not trying to put you on the spot or use you as a bad example, and I rather like a lot of the people I mentioned here. If you don't make an issue out of it, no issue will be had. :3

Gender identity and GLBTQ issues are a sensitive subject, and I understand if I may have offended someone, or even many someones. Like I said, I'm terrible with these kinds of things, so if you see anything you consider unacceptable, please let me know. :3

Feel free to ask any questions, make any comments, etc. I do plan on putting up some more tutorials soon, but in the mean time, I hope this helps. :3
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Critique by posessedbytheanime Nov 1, 2009, 1:36:24 AM
Okay, first off-- AWESOME and very helpful. I can tell you really put a lot of thought into this and I love how you incorporate your own experience into it with the anecdotes. You're right; there really aren't that many guides like this out there and I feel like you're a great person to start learning from.

And now for the obligatory "however, it could be improved!" :'D

First off, moar pictures, please. <3 I understand that dA doesn't really allow for a good way to combine images and text for a tutorial, and I understand that uploading a massive image file is annoying and just a pain in the ass for everyone, but I really feel that a tutorial like this could be improved with images. Some of the things you talk about, like walking and certain mannerisms, might lose us a little if we haven't seen it before or don't really pay attention to these things as much as you do.

Also, some people might want to follow along and try to act these things out while reading the tutorial. Pictures would be really, really great for that. Or some kind of supplementary video, if you wanted to go all-out.

And while we're on the topic of pictures... I think you've done a little better than the Edward Cullen example. :3 Not that that one isn't FABULOUS, but I feel like with all the things you've done, it's not the absolute most awe-inspiring and breathtaking.

I would also suggest more tips on little things, such as ways to greet people or introduce yourself, ways to mess with your hair/face/clothes or ways not to mess with them while trying to pass as the opposite gender, etc. Little things that might give you away. Pictures would also be really great to show that little hunch that women sometimes do while wearing heels, or to demonstrate ways women vs. men tend to fidget, use their hands or hold themselves while at rest. Those things, like you said, can really make the difference as to whether or not you "pass." :3

I think that's it for content. As for organization, I'd definitely suggest making a separate "section" for the part about bathroom usage. The section it's in gets a little long.

Another section that gets rather long (unsurprisingly, given all the personal experience in there x'D) is the fanservice section. Definitely condense that one or break it up a bit, but don't cut it out entirely. Although it's not directly related to passing as the opposite gender, it's very important information that all cosplayers need to know. And many people, particularly crossplayers, tend to do characters they find attractive, so it's especially important. Basically, organize it a little more, but great job including it.

The last part, the one about fanservice as it relates to gender-bending, is also very good to have in there. I don't have much to add content-wise, but as far as organization goes I really think you should put that before the section with general fanservice information. The whole thing would probably flow a lot better and the points about fanservice-- because the audience is thinking about fanservice now-- would make much more of an impact. And people would be likely to better see the relevance and thus pay more attention to it, which is good. =D

Anyway, in conclusion... I really don't have much to say about the content. I learned almost all of what I know either alongside you or directly from you, which you well know. xD <3 Your stories are interesting and relevant, and they give good examples of the points you're making. The writing is good and the whole thing strikes a happy medium by keeping it light and friendly while still also being informative and somewhat professional, to the extent that we can all tell that you're talking about a subject you know well and are comfortable with.

So great job! I think it would be absolutely incredible with a little polishing, but it's really great already. (...And no, I am not just giving you a stellar review because I love you. xD <3) Very well done, sweetie.

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Rosem26 Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2014
Hi. Cool text. Could you right something like this for Man's who want to be a woman
anrili Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist

This was really helpful, thank you a lot!

My crush said that she wanted to cosplay a male homestuck troll,

and I'm pretty sure that she'll jump with glee if I send her the link to this :)

ProjectSky1994 Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
before I dyed my hair I had it bleached out blond and dressed in a home made Germany cosplay for metro con, we were in the main entry waiting for people to show up and I kept hearing whoa!! look at that germany from across the room, I'm a quiet person by nature and tend to be a tom boy so I pulled it off pretty well apparently... I just wish I had gotten pictures of it >.<'
xXThatShyTomboyXx Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013
Thank you so much for writing this!!!
Theanimefan123 Featured By Owner May 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Uh... what if you're a girl who's complying as Conqueror of Shamballa! Al, who is shy, has a high-pitched (and squeaky puberty) voice that is seen as "submissive" in most pairings. I wanted to cosplay him, 'cause it seemed easy, and I just had a few questions.
As for the bathroom thing, I'm just gonna wait till I get back to the hotel room if I ever do that...
Other than that, this helped a little bit!
Forever-Available Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2013
I will go to cons when I'm older. I rufuse to cosplay as a woman. I will make sure I get help from dudes and use this so I acctually seem like a dude. I will seem like a dude, and look like a dude but I'm not going into a mens bathroom.......again. Okay, I might go to a non crowded guys room with my dude friends but I know my limits. Anyways, thanks.
Naked-toes Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you for providing this; I'm a FTM, pretty good at passing, aside from the fact that my masculine body language is atrocious, so tutorials like this are invaluable to me. :)

Again, thank you~
NekoNinja-chan Featured By Owner Sep 23, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you so very much for this. Really..... When I crossplay as a male character, no one have ever thought I was female until I spoken, well, like a girl. So that being said.... I always get so stressed when trying to pick a bathroom! Thank you! Now I can finally, calmy, make my decision. Yeah. Derp.
Hasakitsuki Featured By Owner May 26, 2012
Very interesting and helpful. Thanks a lot! :D
nokki Featured By Owner May 14, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
This is so awesome and helpful! <3 Thank you so much!
JustACosplayer Featured By Owner May 5, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks! This was so helpful! Please go to my page! I just got started here.
Ceri-chan123 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2012
As a crossplayer, I found this incredibly helpful! For improvement…perhaps a bit more about standing/sitting/walking/movement in general? Maybe some tips on how not to go over the top on this sort of thing (i.e. acting too male, to the point where it's ridiculous/not believable)?

(Also, the note about it being kinda awesome when a girl dressed as a guy is referred to as "sir" or in some other masculine way? Absolutely true. XD It is indeed awesome. All fizzy and squiggly.)
Pepadoru Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
This is really helpful :D I am going to o my first crossplay, I kinda act like a guy but I still have female habits (like pacing moving around in place etc) I am going to practice this ^^. Thank you so much for making this tutorial
Yuna264 Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
This is very helpful if I ever decide to go to a con (which I will)~ and I read and enjoyed every single word of it ;u;
Thank you so much for this~
X-Dot Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2011
Oh my, I had a hilarious incident after this year's (2011) Kumoricon. I am a female and I cosplayed as a male character. Until I spoke, a lot of people thought I was a dude (I even scared some people as I barreled up to them for a hug). But the funny part was with one cosplayer I met; my voice apparently didn't sound female enough to him (I thought it was pretty high-pitched, but I guess not) - for when I saw him again at school (turns out we go to the same school, haha!) he was totally flabbergasted that I was a female. Another friend was showing con pictures to her buddy and the buddy was constantly commenting on the 'hot green guy' aka me. So apparently I'm just a pretty girl, but I'm a hot guy XD

Physically, I'm not very curvy and can easily bind my chest down if needed and I have a longer face, and fairly broad shoulders for a girl, so when I stick the clothes on and a short wig and I'm suddenly male. My problem is I had really no idea how to move around or behave. This will help so much! I'm doing a Bleach cosplay with my friend in the next couple years (going as Grimmjow) and I want to be able to walk into that con and have my friend be the only one to know I'm a girl! If I'm going to crossplay, I'm going all out.
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2011  Student General Artist
OMG! That's hilarious! Haha, glad this helps! And good on you, going all out! :la:
X-Dot Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2011
Thanks! I'm very much amused by the idea of being all sneaky and going into the opposite restroom. Though I'm a bit scared that I'd get caught and cause a world of trouble ;D; Not to mention I'd have to go in by myself since there's no way my friend would go with me xD
tigergirl008 Featured By Owner Oct 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
no wonder when I'm out with my mom and brother , everyone is all "oh, what nice sons you have."
OmnipresentFanchica Featured By Owner Oct 3, 2011  Student Traditional Artist
No wonder people stare when I 'Wes' myself in public. 8]

*assumes 'male sitting stance' and falls off of chair onto floor face first* .................Oww.......
sabishiita Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2011  Student Traditional Artist
Ah, this was so helpful but every once in a while you would say something (that would be totally true) and it would just hit me and I'd crack up laughing. So not only with this help me but I had fun ^^ Thank you for posting.
ayashige Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2011
I referenced this in my journal, I hope you don't mind.
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2011  Student General Artist
By all means, please spread the word! If this could be helpful to anyone, let 'em all see it. :D
ToastBuggy Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2011   Digital Artist
This does help me quite a bit! thank you!
I know that fanservice can bee really scary sometimes, but mostly, part of the fun at cons. I met a group of cosplayers and they were giving out black roses to everybody in Kuroshitsuji cosplay. They rushed up to me, I being Ciel, and handed me a rose. I was a little startled at them approaching me, but it wasn't scary or creepy.
So yes, flowers and friendly intentions are very nice and appropriate at cons!

Another thing to add in the 'bathrooms' catagory:
if you are a crossdressing female (with the appropriate parts) using the men's reastrom, it isn't such a good idea to use a urinal.
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2011  Student General Artist
Haha, yeah. Definitely. That's really cool that that happened.

And yeah, it isn't, but there are ways to use a urinal when you have a vagina. [link] [link] The more you know! XD
cheatakatz Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you!
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2011  Student General Artist
SmellerbeesSister Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2011
Hee hee hee. I'm female. I went to a con as Sabuku No Gaara. And guess what? Some OTHER CHICK who was cosplayin' Ino, started HITTING ON ME! I was all, "Uhm, okay. That's a little creepy." I literaly said that, and guess what, she still thought I was a guy! Then she put her amrs around my neck and she said, "But Gaara-kun this is for youtube." And then I did the unexpected. Gaara, lost her cool. I swear I yelled. "BACK OF INO! I'M A GIRL!" and I didn't see her for the rest of the con, so just a note on the "being hit on" Sometimes you HAVE to say something.
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2011  Student General Artist
Definitely. I'd advise being up front and telling the stalker types that they are making you uncomfortable and to PLEASE fuck off.

A lot of times, it doesn't matter if you're seen as a girl or a boy. A lot of fangirls just see you as a person cosplaying a hot dude. =C Best to just be upfront about it if you have to. You can't always count on someone taking a hint.
mohoono-chan Featured By Owner May 30, 2011
ok, so now i know why i'm always being called "sir" in stores and when i eat out. dude, all those "male" expressions and body language things basically totally describes be to a T. and i had to do a survey a while back where i asked people around me to list three words that describe me, and a majority of the people said i was blunt, so i've got that covered. and i totally have been hit on by a chick before. i guess that makes me a great crossplayer, yeah? hah, yeah right. but yeah, just today, in fact, i went out to buy icecream, wearing my hair in a very unmanly way, with my not very manly glasses on, but the clerk still thought i was a dude. even after i spoke in my unmanly voice. i dont know if i looked really manly or she was just a really bad judge of gender. makes you wonder. geez. now i think i'll wear a skirt tomorrow. no, no. a dress. yes. i will say, tho, that this helps, even if i have most of this down naturally. now i can strengthen my masculine charm even further. lol
SaloSalamandra Featured By Owner May 24, 2011  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thank you! This is very useful.
This summer I'm going to the Asturias Manga Hall here in Spain [cosplayed as N from pokémon] so I'm practically going to live three days in the stadium where it's held at xD That means I'll be eating lunch and dinner there [japanese food, yay!]. So... Any tips on eating? xD I would like to remain in character, but I don't know if there's much difference xD
BroughtYouToTears Featured By Owner May 10, 2011
You have NLD? Me too! ;3 We might suck at the body language,but we are creative. :3
BakaBakaRangers Featured By Owner May 3, 2011  Student General Artist
Well, this guide finally makes me realise how much I act like a man .____. and I'm a freakin' girl XD
It was very useful for things I didn't know though, like fanservice and Toilets XD I have to know this for when I'm Masamune Date methinks .__.
Miyori999 Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
This was a rather informative on male behavoir. I have a friend who went into the mens room as Inuzuka Kiba once (she did a great Kiba), but as soon as she got out she started squealing about how "daring" that was. So typically men don't care eh? Nice to know.

I'm going as a guy... and I guess I'm kinda more of a guy sometimes but... the moment I see a cosplayer from Inuyasha I'll break charecter and start bouncing and being a girl wanting to get a picture with them.
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2011  Student General Artist
Thank you! :)
animerox111 Featured By Owner Mar 4, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist YOU SO MUCH! You just saved me O-o no joke hahaha. I'd been pulling my hair out trying to observe how guys! Because my bf finally agreed to do a cosplay duo of L and Light (I'm Light), and as you know Light is a VERY masculine character (but I have his face shape and eyes O-O so check two worries off the list xD) haha! So, once again, THANKS TO BUNDLES! I would kiss you but that's extremely hard (and creepy o-e) to do through a computer screen hahahaha
Ceri-chan123 Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2011
I'm planning on cosplaying Riku from Kingdom Hearts and South Italy from Hetalia soon, and both of those are guys (and I'm not), so this was very helpful! Thank you very much for writing this tutorial!
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2011  Student General Artist
Thank you for the comment!
xFadingLaughterx Featured By Owner Feb 22, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I read this before, but since I'm actually cosplaying a guy (Prussia/Gilbert from APH) at AB this year, I came back for a quick look :)
Anyway, I re-read about Wes and I almost screamed "KLAUS!" ((If anyone read Maiden Rose, you know what I'm talking about))
Zazoe Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
this is just what I needed :D
I won't be cosplaying any time soon, but god this is gonna be good in theatre class and fun at school xD -rubs hands together- let's see if someone will recognize me :evillaugh:
MoonDance29 Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2010
How are you supposed to act if your and your sister are going as two characters from the same anime that are commonly paired together? (like crazy fangirls come up and request fan service)
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2010  Student General Artist
Hmm, well, that depends on what you're comfortable with and how people ask. If you're not uncomfortable with a hug or holding hands, those are good things for "couple fanservice". Fanservice can be as simple as that. If you're really not comfortable at all with acting any sort of romantic situation with your sister, even something like holding hands, just explain and say, "Sorry, she's my sister, so I'd rather not." I doubt anyone would push the issue after that, but if they do, just laugh it off and change the subject, then say there's something you need to do and get out of there. >>; But really, it shouldn't be an issue.
MoonDance29 Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2010
:D Okay, thank you! (I'm such a noob and cosplaying and cons. I'm 99.9% doomed at Comic Con next year. :P)
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2010  Student General Artist
Not a problem =D
Chibi-Freshmen Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2010
this was great!!! as a FTM myself this will be sure to come in handy for me... and it actually answers quite a few problems i have with acting my male part. ^^ thanks a load
MissAspie Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2010  Hobbyist Digital Artist
you skipped 6
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2010  Student General Artist
I've seriously been WAITING for someone to notice that.
xFadingLaughterx Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
I love this. Everything about it, really. It even made my anime-hater friend laugh her ass off. It was informative, and kept my interest.
Btw: I was at AB last year and most likely will go again. You???
Pyroluminescence Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2010  Student General Artist
Yep. :D I'm going to see about doing a panel there, actually...
xFadingLaughterx Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
oooooo Of what kind, may I ask?
soraKHdemyx Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2010  Student Photographer
AMAZING! this helps so much, you have no idea.
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